Would you respect your partner’s privacy?

I was listening to this topic when i was driving to work today. It’s an interesting topic to be discussed. at first, what come in my mind when i heard about the topic title is, “of course we have to respect other’s privacy. What kind of topic is this?”

But then, after i heard the first comment from the caller, my opinion has started to change. Iyup, what she said was right. Hmm.... let’s discuss about this more further because i think this topic is so beneficial to us. Am i right?

Why am i so attracted to this topic? Because, sooner or later all of us will experience this kind of situations, insyaAllah. So i think this is the best time to think about this as i am still single, not attached to anybody. So i can say that i can think of this topic more clearly without any influences by the third party (the partner i mean.. hehe).

What is meant by the privacy as discussed in this topic?

Hand phone- some couples respects their partner’s privacy about the use of hand phone. This includes who he texted, who he calls, who calls him and many more. There is a case. The caller’s partner ask her to respect his privacy about hand phone, and one day, accidently she looked at his partner’s hand phone and found that her partner is texting other woman. He called the woman ‘sayang’! So i can say that this is the misused of privacy and the women has been cheated in this case.

Wallet- a woman called saying that he always respect his husband’s privacy. But one day she got the feeling to open his husband wallet and found that there’s a picture of his husband long long time ex-girlfriend in it! It’s ok if the husband didn’t put the wife’s picture in his wallet but by putting his ex-girlfriend picture in his wallet is sooooooo unacceptable. It shows that he still miss his ex-girlfriend, after 26 years of marriage? Owh GOD.

For me, the most important thing in marriage is trust. If you don’t trust your partner, how could you last the relationship? It will be so stressful to live in a suspicious-about-partner mode every second of your life, don’t you think so?

According to the book that i currently read now, aku terima nikahnya written by ustaz hasrizal (i didn’t pay the book yet-owe someone..sigh~), in marriage we must set in mind to give, not to accept. So that, we will be less stress when it comes to the weaknesses of our partners because we didn’t expect much from him. Just gives the best and not demanding! I like this. If everyone practices this concept, what a happy life we had... insyaAllah. So, does this meant we have to give privacy to our partner? I need to study much2 more on this.

I heard a kuliyyah from ustaz azhar-online. He said that if the husband said, mind his business, then the wife should give him the privacy, to avoid unpleasant things from happened. More on the kuliyyah is http://www.ustazazhar.com/v1/. so, do we should give privacy to our partner? What if the privacy is misused by him?

So...should we give privacy to our partner? Pening~